"Money can't buy friends, but you can get a better class of enemy." ~ Spike Milligan
My maiden posting hits close to home as one of the most classy and fabulous girls i know is getting married, and we all know what you have to deal with when people get married: bridesmaid-zillas!
The definition for bridesmaid-zillas is:
"Bridesmaid who feels put out and or stressed out with fulfilling their duties for a supposed 'dear' friend's wedding"
News flash, being asked to be in a wedding is optional, not a requirement! If you accept the invitation to be a bridesmaid remember that it's not about you, but the bride, and that you will be spending money on it.
I think establishing yourself as a classy and fabulous girl as Coco Chanel described, you have to be gracious and selfless. I'm currently the maid of honor for a wedding with 7 bridesmaids total, and we've got the worst case of an ornery bridesmaid.
The bridesmaid-zilla in question is the oldest friend of the bride, whom the bride usually refers to as her "sister from another planet". Throughout the duration of the wedding planning, she has posed nothing but problems in complaining about the dress, does she have to get her hair done for the wedding, when is the latest that she can be in town for the wedding? Do us all a favor and step down. The big altercation came when she was asked to come to the bachelorette party that is being held in NYC over Labor Day and she has to travel from the city of angels to NYC...where most of her friends still live. Instead of taking the classy route and letting us know from the beginning that she would be unable to attend she responds yes, then backs out last minute because her mom is coming to visit. (let me clarify that she just saw her mother a month ago, her mom lives relatively close, and they have the means to fly to and from every other weekend if they wanted to). She then continues on to complain about how much money she's spent on the wedding. After our altercation (on her end, yes, i detest her but i'm still maintaining the niceties because that's what c.f.l.l.c girls do), she decides to seek sympathy from the bride and complain about how much money she's spent on the wedding and how inconvenient it is!
WHO DOES THAT?!
Who in their right mind thinks that it's okay to lay out your frustration on the already stressed out best friend, and complain about how much it's costing you to fly back once, and have your parents pay for the hotel room. What i don't understand is how one thinks that it's okay to splurge and buy a room at a swanky nyc hotel for a one night stand, but too much to ask to come to nyc for a "best friend's" bachelorette party?
Let this be a lesson ladies, choose carefully the girls you surround yourself with, and just because you've known someone for a long time and have a lot of history, doesn't mean that they fit the mold.
xx
The definition for bridesmaid-zillas is:
"Bridesmaid who feels put out and or stressed out with fulfilling their duties for a supposed 'dear' friend's wedding"
News flash, being asked to be in a wedding is optional, not a requirement! If you accept the invitation to be a bridesmaid remember that it's not about you, but the bride, and that you will be spending money on it.
I think establishing yourself as a classy and fabulous girl as Coco Chanel described, you have to be gracious and selfless. I'm currently the maid of honor for a wedding with 7 bridesmaids total, and we've got the worst case of an ornery bridesmaid.
The bridesmaid-zilla in question is the oldest friend of the bride, whom the bride usually refers to as her "sister from another planet". Throughout the duration of the wedding planning, she has posed nothing but problems in complaining about the dress, does she have to get her hair done for the wedding, when is the latest that she can be in town for the wedding? Do us all a favor and step down. The big altercation came when she was asked to come to the bachelorette party that is being held in NYC over Labor Day and she has to travel from the city of angels to NYC...where most of her friends still live. Instead of taking the classy route and letting us know from the beginning that she would be unable to attend she responds yes, then backs out last minute because her mom is coming to visit. (let me clarify that she just saw her mother a month ago, her mom lives relatively close, and they have the means to fly to and from every other weekend if they wanted to). She then continues on to complain about how much money she's spent on the wedding. After our altercation (on her end, yes, i detest her but i'm still maintaining the niceties because that's what c.f.l.l.c girls do), she decides to seek sympathy from the bride and complain about how much money she's spent on the wedding and how inconvenient it is!
WHO DOES THAT?!
Who in their right mind thinks that it's okay to lay out your frustration on the already stressed out best friend, and complain about how much it's costing you to fly back once, and have your parents pay for the hotel room. What i don't understand is how one thinks that it's okay to splurge and buy a room at a swanky nyc hotel for a one night stand, but too much to ask to come to nyc for a "best friend's" bachelorette party?
Let this be a lesson ladies, choose carefully the girls you surround yourself with, and just because you've known someone for a long time and have a lot of history, doesn't mean that they fit the mold.
xx
